Practice 1:
Theme: deepening your relationship with your husband。
Tools: dialogue, notes and paper。
Participants: mom and dad。
Progress: 30 minutes, at least once a week, until the end of pregnancy。
Ideally, pregnancy is a period of happiness for you and your husband. However, most couples who are about to have children also face a lot of pressure. During pregnancy, you may wonder if your husband still finds you attractive. On the other hand, your husband may be worried about being a good dad after the birth. Moreover, there may still be some unresolved ties between you and your husband。
Since your relationship with your husband has created the emotional environment in which your child grows, it is extremely important to resolve any existing problem now. The fourth month of pregnancy is a good time for you to discuss your relationship with honesty and openness。
In order to help ease the tension between you and your husband and to bring you closer, please do the following dialogue exercise. In this exercise, you will ask each other a series of specific and in-depth questions. Through this guiding conversation, you will sort out each other's feelings and fears, thus deepening the bonds of emotion between you。
Find a convenient time for you and your husband to sit down and spend at least 30 minutes together. This will be an excellent opportunity for you to discuss each other's feelings and the children to be born. This exercise is best done once a week, so let's start with a fixed time so you can do it on a regular basis. It's important that even if you both feel there's nothing to say, do it at a fixed time。
The following are some of the basic principles of the dialogue:
Honestly。
Speak your mind。
Share each other's feelings。
You really listen to each other。
Support each other。
Don't interrupt。
Don't make your husband feel guilty about what he said and try not to make yourself feel guilty。
Forgive yourself and your husband。
When you listen to your husband's thoughts and feelings. Look into his eyes。
Responsible for your own emotions。
Wait..
Now you're ready to start. In your first conversation, both people should write down the following sentence in their respective tsars. Before discussing these accounts with each other, the answers are written in private. To be as concise as possible, even if the answer is a word or a sentence。
The place i admire you is..
I hate your place
I hurt you in the past because..
You used to hurt me because..
Am i prepared to forgive you
Please stop for a few minutes and discuss your answers, then go back to what you wrote and finish this sentence:
I still can't tell you..
Now drop your pens and discuss the answer to the last question。
Special attention will be paid to the fact that, in the future, you will use the weekly dialogue time to discuss a variety of issues. For example, you can discuss the relationship between your parents as children. Did you find anything in common with your families? Were your relations affected by the relationship between your parents? You can even deal with parental responsibility and fear, or your sense of production. If you like, write your own questions and answers。
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