This is the 3572 article of the doctor's office
Grandmother sat on a chair and groaned: "the sun is so big and it's so hot!"
It's raining, and grandma's groaning: "how can you wash the laundry in shanghai when it's raining? I have two kids to raise! It's worth everything. I got a training session for my granddaughter yesterday. Ugh..
Is there anything we can do to make grandma chang happy
We all have emotional experiences in our lives: joy, pleasure, boredom, pain... So, what really affected our emotions
A long time ago, a teacher in france worked on the site with three apprentices. A passing man said, "what are you doing?"
The first said: "i am building bricks
The other said: "i am building a house
And the third said: i am building a palace。
Years later, the brick-builder couldn't find a job, because he was old and couldn't go back to building any more bricks; the builder was still building a house, but had his own villa and became a foreman; and the third was a famous architect in france。
There are three different beliefs among the three workers who did the same work, and three different outcomes。
In the 1950s, american psychologist albert ellis created the emotional abc theory, which is also at the heart of rational emotional treatment。
Elise believes that the trigger a is only an indirect cause of emotional and behavioural consequences c, and that the immediate cause of c is the belief that b, the result of a negative emotional and behavioural disorder (c) of a person's perception and evaluation of the trigger a, is not a direct result of a triggering event (a), but a direct result of a false belief in its incorrect perception and evaluation by the individual who experienced it。
The three construction workers ' different beliefs led to three different lives. They're all construction workers, they're all the same a, but different b leads to a very different c. This simple example confirms ellis's theory that b is the direct cause of c。
People's emotional and behavioural reactions are directly related to people's thoughts and perceptions of things. Behind those ideas and views is a common perception of something, and that is faith。
For example, you're told, "you're so good!" different beliefs can have different emotional reactions。
A. He likes me. It's great! - happy, happy
B. He's just consoling me
I'm fine. What does this guy want? - doubts, confusion
D. H., please me. Use me
E
Reasonable belief leads to appropriate and proportionate emotional and behavioural reactions; irrational beliefs, on the contrary, often lead to inappropriate emotional and behavioural reactions。
In real life we need to learn to create new, more realistic and adaptable ways of thinking。
A psychiatrist said to grandma zhang: "grandma zhang, you've been bored all day. I heard you've been eating and sleeping poorly. Are you worried about your son's business? Think of your son who sells umbrellas in the rain, your son in the laundry in the sun, your son in the rain or in the sky. Your family has money every day
Grandma zhang had a good reason to listen, so she got happy。
Attach:
Stimulating event a (activating event)
Faith b
Emotional and behavioural c
